Special Topics in Being a Human: A Queer and Tender Guide to Things I've Learned the Hard Way about Caring for People, Including Myself (Paperback)

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If you've ever felt dissatisfied with an apology, or struggled to remember someone's pronouns, or grappled with a big decision, this book is for you!  Self help books are great in theory, but in practice, it's often hard to find time to sit down and read them through. Bear's book is illustrated and broken into manageable chunks, so it's easy to pick up and set down for folks who are overscheduled or struggle with attention span (or both, like me)! Best of all, he even includes handy cheatsheets at the end of each topic, so you can snap a picture and take the highlights with you for later when you've forgotten the details. 


— From Special Topics in Being a Human


As an author, educator, and public speaker, S. Bear Bergman has documented his experience as, among other things, a trans parent, with wit and aplomb. He also writes the advice column "Ask Bear," in which he answers crucial questions about how best to make our collective way through the world.

Featuring disarming illustrations by Saul Freedman-Lawson, Special Topics in Being a Human elaborates on "Asking Bear"'s premise: a gentle, witty, and insightful book of practical advice for the modern age. It offers Dad advice and Jewish bubbe wisdom, all filtered through a queer lens, to help you navigate some of the complexities of life--from how to make big decisions or make a good apology, to how to get someone's new name and pronouns right as quickly as possible, to how to gracefully navigate a breakup. With warmth and candor, Special Topics in Being a Human calls out social inequities and injustices in traditional advice-giving, validates your feelings, asks a lot of questions, and tries to help you be your best possible self with kindness, compassion, and humor.

About the Author

S. Bear Bergman is a writer, storyteller, activist, and the founder and publisher of the book press Flamingo Rampant, which makes feminist, culturally diverse children's picture books about LGBT2Q+ kids and families. He writes creative non-fiction for grown-ups, fiction for children, resolutely factual features for various publications, and the advice column "Asking Bear." His books include The Nearest Exit May Be Behind Us and Blood, Marriage, Wine & Glitter, and he was the co-editor along with Kate Bornstein of Gender Outlaws: The Next Generation. Saul Freedman-Lawson is an illustrator, student, zine-maker, babysitter, and educator. He makes art about queerness, transness, Judaism, and childhood. His comic Naturally is forthcoming from Old Growth Press. He likes to draw excitingly gendered people with big noses. This is his first full-length book.

Product Details
ISBN: 9781551528540
ISBN-10: 1551528541
Publisher: Arsenal Pulp Press
Publication Date: October 12th, 2021
Pages: 256
Language: English